Q. I have a friend and neighbor who has been trying to get work for months. He’s smart and had a fine career back in the day, but now that he’s 60, opportunities have dried up. I think part of the problem is that his wardrobe and grooming are very outdated. Should I suggest he update? I’m afraid it will hurt his feelings. – Wondering About Manners

Dear Wondering: In today’s tough job market, even a small edge can help. Tell your friend that while you both know such things are beside the point, he may fare better if that first impression is an updated one. A couple of job interview outfits and a haircut may do the trick, and you can offer to accompany him as he seeks out these props. If you have a good editor’s eye, you might also try for a look at his resume. If his jackets are stuck in the 1980s, his paperwork may be as well.

– O!Connor